Buddhism for Mothers: Dealing with Anger
I’ve been thinking about this post all week, finding Anger to be a difficult subject. Right now, I’m typing from the comfort of a porch swing. Both my children are sweetly sleeping. I have chamomile tea. The wind chimes are tinkling. My husband just brought me a footstool. And a blanket… I’m hardly in any position to talk about anger.
Let me take you back to Monday morning. After B left for work, I went down to the basement to work on the laundry as I usually do. I pulled the clothes out of the washing machine to put them in the dryer. This, my friends, is when I found the entire contents of a full pack of gum on the bottom of the washing machine. GUM! To say I was annoyed is a bit of an understatement. (I probably should have just gone directly to the porch swing, hu?) I’m not an angry person. In fact, I very rarely describe anything I’m feeling as angry. I say I’m “upset” or “irritated”, never “angry”. Mothers aren’t supposed to get angry, are we?
As it turns out, mothers are still human and useless as it is, we sometimes get angry. One of the most important points I feel is made in this chapter is that anger, although a very strong and sometimes overwhelming emotion, is just as transient as any other. Stuffing anger down won’t do any good. Neither will acting on it. Just as with any other emotion, anger also deserves our recognition. Observation. We can then consider our options for dealing with the anger rather than acting on it.
I wish I could tell you I handled the gum situation with poise and grace. Not so much. I hope I’ll do better next time.
So, what are your thoughts?
PS Ch.5: Worrying About Our Children for next week?