Buddhism For Mothers: Buddhism and Motherhood
Hello and welcome to the first Oh Baby O read-along! I’ve been giving a lot of thought as to how to host this read-along. Rather than reiterate what we’ve read, I think it’s best for us to simply discuss the points that resonate most with us.
Something I’ve been thinking about during my postpartum time is the concept of “ideal motherhood”. What does a state of “ideal motherhood” look like?
When I think of “ideal motherhood”, I think of a state of calm and presence, a mother who is both mentally as well as physically present. Keeping this in mind, I find myself particularly drawn to the idea of Buddhist practices offering mothers a way to achieve a sense of calm that will permit them to actually experience their own lives, to be present for them.
Although I strive everyday to live mindfully, I must admit to being distracted by my own thoughts. Like so many other mothers I know, I’m often worrying about things that have not happened and probably never will. While this is certainly part of being a mother, it’s also distracting and quite useless. With practice, I’m discovering that if I’m able to merely acknowledge my thoughts and concerns (without judgement) rather than try to push them away, it is easier to let them go and allow myself to be in the now. It’s liberating, really. (I touched on this recently here.)
Which parts of this chapter did you reflect on most? What does “ideal motherhood” look like to you?
P.S. How is this pace? Does one chapter each week work for everyone? Is it too slow?
Also, for anyone that might be interested, it’s not too late to join in!